"please clean up your toys" is now responded to with the popular hands on hips and "I just don't feel like it right now" I think next time I don't feel like going to the park, I won't, or when I don't want to bake cookies for school, I shouldn't. Except I'm her mom, so of course I will bake cookies, then probably go to the park too.
You would think that being with a child all day every day would help control what they learn and how they act, but I have learned that is not the case. No matter how well I try to control the environment around us, I still hear words I know I don't say, and witness habits forming that I've never had, nor those around me. So I wonder where it comes from. Did she randomly see a girl in the grocery store with weird braids I now need ot learn? Or was that grandma walking by the house uttering those horrible words?
I will take credit for certain things though, I'm pleased to think I'm teaching her independance and how to make her own decisions, which is helpful to chant in my head when she tells me "no". I'm proud that she is learning to clean up after herself, even if she wants to decide when she feels like it, and it makes me happy to see that she won't be a pushover later in life.
Now, back to finding the source of this attitude and these words!!!