Shoes are supposed to be on the floor. Of course there's a snuggly blanket on the couch. If there's no dirty dishes in the kitchen I will assume you don't eat, and I won't want to eat there either.
If I'm coming for a coffee please don't clean for me. If I see coffee cups scattered around then I know its not extra work for you to make me a cup. I'd hate to be the reason your pristine kitchen has a coffee ring on the counter, or have you run a dishwasher because i dirtied a sole cup. I won't know where to sit if your furniture is never used. I want to see that you aren't perfect, that you aren't doing any better then me. That we can indeed be friends, we are doing the best we can and that's less then perfect. Except the bathroom. Please clean the bathroom.