Ok, let's call this a rant. Although, with this pretty new font I JUST found, it'll be the prettiest rant I've ever written :)
I tend to know things. Just things in general. Some are helpful, some are useless, and some is only helpful to certain people or at certain times. So people tend to ask me things, they look for advice, answers, they know if I don't know and they need it I will look it up, or that I know someone who knows. Maybe it's because I'm a knowledge seeker, or maybe it's just because most of the time I've been there done that or have watched someone else go through it. Either way, it has allowed me to help people when the need it simply by providing them with information.
Now, here's where the rant starts. I really wish that people would either do what I suggest or not ask me anything. I don't understand the point of them asking me something then ignoring what I tell them. Seriously! If you want to know where to file your divorce, I'll tell you, but if you are still not filed or haven't even filled out the paperwork 6 months or a year later, then don't bother asking me anything else because I won't waste my energy telling you. It happens way more then you'd think too. "Where can I find..." yet they never go check the store I suggested, even though I will. Why am I going to more effort to get answers then they are? Well that's simple, I'm a people pleaser and I like to help.
I don't want to become bitter and angry, or to just not share my knowledge, I dont' want to shut down and leave everyone to their own devices if I think I can be useful, but it's necessary to choose how far I will go to help and maybe even which people I will bother to share with. I do have a few friends who will call for advice and will do exactly as I recommend, or who will take my advice into consideration and then form a plan of action (those are my favorites! I help, but they still decide themselves) I am more then happy to be of use to them, and I look forward to hearing how things turn out. They just don't alway have the experience or the time to look for the details they need, and I usually do. Thankfully I have my own people that I look forward to for advice. One for financial advice, a few for advice with my daughter, one for cooking, someone for computer issues, well, a couple for computer issues... These are my go-to people and I value them and what they have to say. If they say they found an item I like for sale, I go check it out, if they recommend a book to read or suggest I take my child to a doctor, then I do so. It's simple. If I don't want their advice then I don't ask for it, and when I ask for it I use it.
Thank you for listening to my rant. I do feel better. I'm still not helping unapreciative people though :)
I tend to know things. Just things in general. Some are helpful, some are useless, and some is only helpful to certain people or at certain times. So people tend to ask me things, they look for advice, answers, they know if I don't know and they need it I will look it up, or that I know someone who knows. Maybe it's because I'm a knowledge seeker, or maybe it's just because most of the time I've been there done that or have watched someone else go through it. Either way, it has allowed me to help people when the need it simply by providing them with information.
Now, here's where the rant starts. I really wish that people would either do what I suggest or not ask me anything. I don't understand the point of them asking me something then ignoring what I tell them. Seriously! If you want to know where to file your divorce, I'll tell you, but if you are still not filed or haven't even filled out the paperwork 6 months or a year later, then don't bother asking me anything else because I won't waste my energy telling you. It happens way more then you'd think too. "Where can I find..." yet they never go check the store I suggested, even though I will. Why am I going to more effort to get answers then they are? Well that's simple, I'm a people pleaser and I like to help.
I don't want to become bitter and angry, or to just not share my knowledge, I dont' want to shut down and leave everyone to their own devices if I think I can be useful, but it's necessary to choose how far I will go to help and maybe even which people I will bother to share with. I do have a few friends who will call for advice and will do exactly as I recommend, or who will take my advice into consideration and then form a plan of action (those are my favorites! I help, but they still decide themselves) I am more then happy to be of use to them, and I look forward to hearing how things turn out. They just don't alway have the experience or the time to look for the details they need, and I usually do. Thankfully I have my own people that I look forward to for advice. One for financial advice, a few for advice with my daughter, one for cooking, someone for computer issues, well, a couple for computer issues... These are my go-to people and I value them and what they have to say. If they say they found an item I like for sale, I go check it out, if they recommend a book to read or suggest I take my child to a doctor, then I do so. It's simple. If I don't want their advice then I don't ask for it, and when I ask for it I use it.
Thank you for listening to my rant. I do feel better. I'm still not helping unapreciative people though :)