The honest truth is when I'm out and my child just flat out won't listen to me, I don't mind if someone else lends a quick helping hand. At the pharmacy if she's running and I can't get her to stop (this is one of the few situations I wouldn't just put her in the car and leave, we need those perscriptions and it's too far to drive it a few times a day, though yes, I have made her sit in the car to wait for them if necessary) then the pharmasist telling her it's against the rules, please stop, is helping me. Then it's not just some silly rule mommy made up to spoil the fun. Sometimes she jumps around, and in some places that's ok, but in a church or library it's not ok, an older person (she loves the grandmas!) or a librarian gets more respect from her sometimes. She views these as people who know stuff, at least I taught her that much, and she sees them as someone to respect and listen too.
I have taught my child that adults are to be respected, and that she has to listen to more then just me. This is because she has to go to school, and she likes to join extracuricular activities, and when I'm not always there I need to know she will listen to other people. It's a simple fact of life that we do not live alone on a island with no one esle to be affected or bothered by our actions. I want to say my child listens to me all the time but it's just not true, so I don't mind when someone else offers a quick "hey, this isn't the place to do that" to my child. I know a lot of people disagree with me, but eh, that's not really new.
One more time that it's ok? If I'm at my friends place and my child doesn't know the rules then please feel free to let her know. It's your house, and I'm a guest, I'm sorry that you have to help me parent my child, but as a friend and a fellow mom I figure we are all in this together. I've actually had a friend of mine thank me when I asked her child to stop something (I asked nicely, please and all) because she couldn't get him too, and she appreciated that I wanted to help her. This was an eye opening experience for me, as I thought for sure she wouldn't be my friend anymore.
I guess what it comes done to is how it's all done. Can a stranger randomly spank my child? Heck no!! Can they politely say there are different rules here then at home, or ask her to please keep it down in the library or museum? Yes! Please. I swear she thinks I just make up random rules for my own entertainment sometimes, and when others just watch it she figures it must be ok or they'd tell her to knock it off.
I am a firm believer that it takes a community to raise a child, as children react differntly to everyone and sometimes other people know tricks that I haven't learned yet.
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