I don't undrestand why it is so difficult to date now. In school it was easy, see a boy, flirt a little, and BAM you have a boyfriend! Now, not only is it find a place to see a guy, then try to find one you are attracted too (lately just because he's good looking in general doesn't mean I find him attractive... confusing but true), THEN you flirt from a distance and try to get him to come over and introduce himself so you can flirt up close. If that doesn't work, then you are left with the decision to go over there or not. It's not my first choice, simply because I wish to start things the way I expect them to continue, and I will not spend my time chasing a guy. This first time can be rethought though, as maybe he's shy, I mean there has to be a reason he's single at this age, and shyness is the nicest of the choices.
In my hunt for the right man, I've decided to rule some things out just on basic merit and whether or not I deme it to e conducive to long term happiness.
This means that I have one set of expectations or characteristics that would be good in someone I wish to date and flirt with, and another for someone who maybe long term potential. The problem with that is it takes dating and flirting to know someone well enough to learn their character. These loopholes make everything harder!
I guess that brings me back around to talking to everyone, to being open to opportunity, and to enjoy meeting new people an learning about them. The advantage to my lists is that I now won't waste time with people who don't fit.
That being said; do opposites attract or should I look for someone I have similarities with?
My take on this is that we just have enough differences to expand our experiences and try new things, but we must also have enough in common that we want to do things together. If we have nothing in common at all I don't think we would spend enough time together to learn about the opposite parts, to try new things or to leave out comfort zones.