I have decided to no longer chase my friends. I have so many people who I try to keep in contact with, I call, or FaceBook, or text at least once every two weeks, some even once a week. Sometimes I get responses and sometimes I don't. So, I've made a decision:
If you don't call me back a few times, I won't call again.
If you don't text me back a few times, I won't text again.
If you don't even bother to read my FB messages, or you do and choose not to respond, I won't message again.
This doesn't mean that I don't want to be friends anymore, it simply means that I no longer want to feel like a stalker. Not that I did in the first place, but it happens... I don' think I should have to chase my friends, they are my friends for a reason and I think that it's suitable for them to contact me sometimes. I feel as though I get annoying, and that they will no longer want to talk to me at all because it comes across as harassing.
It also is for my own self esteem. My true friends will call me, they will message me, and they will wonder why they haven`t heard from me. If they don't notice that I haven't called then really how good of friends are we?
I do have real friends. I have good friends. They make time for me and they check in on me. I will continue to talk to them and visit with them. Maybe it puts more pressure on my other friendships but so be it.
Also, I'm out to make new friends! People who have more in common with me and enjoy the things I enjoy. When we outgrow our old friends, we grow into new ones.
If you don't call me back a few times, I won't call again.
If you don't text me back a few times, I won't text again.
If you don't even bother to read my FB messages, or you do and choose not to respond, I won't message again.
This doesn't mean that I don't want to be friends anymore, it simply means that I no longer want to feel like a stalker. Not that I did in the first place, but it happens... I don' think I should have to chase my friends, they are my friends for a reason and I think that it's suitable for them to contact me sometimes. I feel as though I get annoying, and that they will no longer want to talk to me at all because it comes across as harassing.
It also is for my own self esteem. My true friends will call me, they will message me, and they will wonder why they haven`t heard from me. If they don't notice that I haven't called then really how good of friends are we?
I do have real friends. I have good friends. They make time for me and they check in on me. I will continue to talk to them and visit with them. Maybe it puts more pressure on my other friendships but so be it.
Also, I'm out to make new friends! People who have more in common with me and enjoy the things I enjoy. When we outgrow our old friends, we grow into new ones.