Some of my best advice comes from movies. Some of my most life altering thought processes have been triggered by books. I believe that you can find what you need if you look hard enough, and that often it is right in front of you if only you are willing to see it.
"Go find your happy ending"
This is the sentence I am currently working with. For those interested, it is quoted near the end of the movie "Little Black Book"
He's right. I should find my happy ending. Maybe my happy ending won't look like other peoples. Perhaps I'm not meant to have the cookie cutter family with the 2.5 children and loving husband, but that does not mean my very own happy ending isn't waiting for me to get there. It' time I go looking for it. I could wait and see if it finds me, but that seems like it could take so long...and what would I do while I wait? Nope, I need to go in search of my own happy.
"Go find your happy ending"
This is the sentence I am currently working with. For those interested, it is quoted near the end of the movie "Little Black Book"
He's right. I should find my happy ending. Maybe my happy ending won't look like other peoples. Perhaps I'm not meant to have the cookie cutter family with the 2.5 children and loving husband, but that does not mean my very own happy ending isn't waiting for me to get there. It' time I go looking for it. I could wait and see if it finds me, but that seems like it could take so long...and what would I do while I wait? Nope, I need to go in search of my own happy.
I believe, and always have, that in order to be happy with someone else you need to be happy on your own. In order to love someone else, you need first to love yourself. I've been through some hard relationships, and when I think back they all started at a time that I wasn't happy, and that I didn't necessarily like who I was. This realization has helped me reach the conclusion that it left me open to bad relationships, men who would take advantage, and men who ulitimately would treat me badly as on some level maybe that's what I thought I deserved. Otherwise why would I have tolerated it for so very long?
Now, I am happy with myself. I wake up every morning knowing that I am at least doing the best I can, and that I consider the needs of others then of myself, but that taking care of my own needs first will allow me to do more for others. By bettering myself first, I have more to give back to those around me. This in turn makes me a better person to be in a relationship with, which should lead to better relationships and perhaps bring me closer to my own forever love.
Soul mates. Everyone hopes to find their soul mate, whether it be the man you marry, the friend you've had forever, or someone who just makes you feel whole by being near. I will never find my own soul mate until I can recognise and like my own soul, until I can say I am truly happy with the core of my being, and my way of life and morals. This may take time, but most good things do, and the rewards at the end of a long journey somehow mean so much more then those that come easily. Maybe all my trials, all my stumbling blocks, are the price that I must pay in order to be truly happy later in life. Maybe these are the dues I must pay.
I just feels like it's time now to actively try to be happy, to look for what makes me happy and pursue it, and to take an active role in steering my own life, my own destiny. I welcome those who want to take part in my journey, or to hear of it along the way. I hope that somehow my path through life may help others find their own, or that my travels through adversity may somehow show others there is a way for them as well, they just need to find it.