Everyone heals at a different pace, and everyone does things in their own time. Several of my fiiends found themsleves to be single around the same time I did, and I witnessed first had the differences in how people deal with breakups. One was dating within a few weeks, another within 3 months, while I waited about a year before I felt ready to even consider dating. I can't now say for certain I'm ready for a relationship, but I'm ready to date. It took me time to deal with the changes in life and the seperation from someone who was so much a part of my life. I will not rush myself into something because my friends are ready for me to move on, or are ready for me to start again. I can move on from the relationship and create a new version of myself, but that will take time, and I will know when I'm ready to try again.
While a break up is a loss, I have suffered other, more permanant losses in my life, and I find that I take a different amount of time to heal from those then others expect as well. I lost someone very important to me at a young age, and to deal with the pain I tried to keep life as normal as I could. I did not succeed in that, and I only managed to shove the pain farther into my being and let it seep out in small amounts. This may have taken longer, but it allowed me to deal with my pain in manageable increments. You can't just wake up one day and decide that it's ok, that it doesn't hurt anymore. On special occasions I still feel the emptyness, but it did get much easier as time passed.
A broken heart is like a broken limb, if you try to use it to quickly rather then let it heal at it's own rate, you will simply make it worse. Allowing myself to heal is all just part of growing my wings.
While a break up is a loss, I have suffered other, more permanant losses in my life, and I find that I take a different amount of time to heal from those then others expect as well. I lost someone very important to me at a young age, and to deal with the pain I tried to keep life as normal as I could. I did not succeed in that, and I only managed to shove the pain farther into my being and let it seep out in small amounts. This may have taken longer, but it allowed me to deal with my pain in manageable increments. You can't just wake up one day and decide that it's ok, that it doesn't hurt anymore. On special occasions I still feel the emptyness, but it did get much easier as time passed.
A broken heart is like a broken limb, if you try to use it to quickly rather then let it heal at it's own rate, you will simply make it worse. Allowing myself to heal is all just part of growing my wings.