We all have our own set of red flags. I'm going to share some that I've run into lately. These are things that may seem small, or may reach out and slap you in the face, but either way I want nothing to do with them.
-when you tell him you can't go, he tells you ways you should get around it, or even tries to remove the obstacle yourself (like talking to my family to find me a sitter when I said I can't go, even though I've only met him a few times...)
-when you can't make it exactly when and where they want they are snide or rude about it, or announce you won't be speaking again, either for a while or ever
-tell you that they don't want to talk to you agian, avoid you for months or years, then act like you are best friends
-lie about drinking
-tell you not to be jealous when you have no intentions of it or reason to be (I had a guy tell me not to be jealous when we hadn't even been on a date yet, and he was just hanging out with a friend) Why do they need to be so defensive?
-lie about other women. This can go either way, they may lie about who someone is if you now different, either say she's family when she's not, or say she's a date when she's not. Either way, it's a lie
-lie about little things that don't matter, they will likely lie about big things too
-assume that you are angry or "attacking" them when you are making a simple comment or observation. If they are overly defensive I"ve found they have a reason to be
-judge and insult others, especially women, harshly when they don't know them, or when they don't know you very well. In my experience they will judge you, especially if you change at all (hair, weight, habits)
-call you or text you late at night, especially after you've asked them not too. This is just inconsiderate and I've seen it spill over into other parts of life frequently
-insults your weight, even if he tries to make it look like he's joking. This also works for other things that are upsetting to you, such as insulting your intelligence, or "joking" about all the things you can't do. Some couples joke and tease in a relationship, but if you are just learning about each other or if it is constant it can become very poisonious
These are just a few of the red flags I've encout