I thought I had a few good friends, and some ok friends, and some aquatiences. This week I am learning more and more who my real friends are, who my sometimes friends are, and who isn't as good a friend as I thought.
Apparently I am better friends, or thought I was better friends, with a few people then they think. I rather wish I had known before I put in so much effort. I have tried to maintain friendships but when it's all one way then it won't work anyway. I feel like I am putting effort into things and getting nothing back.
Women have some shows and parties. It happens. We get pulled in by the offer of free stuff! I try to always go to theirs, and when it's something I will use I try to always order. I don't always receive invites, but when I do I go :) Do they ever come to mine? Nope! Oh and the excuses! OR the plain ignoring me that goes on after. Just grow up and tell me the truth. "I'm not interested" "I'm in the city and won't get home" or, I'm sure the most common but never mentioned "I completely forgot!" Nope, I get blown off. Rude. Inconsiderate. Even hurtful. Will I go to thir next one? Probably, if only to network and have a night out. I won't be purchasing anything not completely necessary though!
Friends share information, highs and lows, and like talking and chatting. When I have to always call them, or text them, or leave them messages, then I begin to feel that they don't really want to talk to me, so are we really friends? I learn things through others, or I infer from the clues that are in front of me, or I see things on Facebook. Why then would I share my news or anything with them? Maybe that's their whole point. Guess I'll stop sharing! They tell other people though, and go to other people's home parties, and call and text other people...I can live with that, but then when I talk to you less, then please don't tell me I'm your best friend and you miss me. That's not true and we both know it. Call me or don't call me, that's how I know!
I do have a lot of good friends. I have friends that I am lucky to have and I speak to them almost daily. I'm going to focus on them, they are happy to hear from me, and they share their news :) I'm looking for new friends still too, and new things to do. A larger circle offer