It is my opinion that if a man does something once, then he will do it again. It is important to be careful how you enter into a relationship as that may be the same way you leave it.
If he cheats on her with you, he will likely cheat in you.
If he leaves her for you, he can leave you for someone else.
If he takes the time to get to know you and appreciates what is great about you, he will put in an effort to make it work later too.
These are of course my own opinions and observations, I've done no scientific research or studies, but I've seen it over and over. My friends who have cheated have done so repeatedly, never just once. The man who left me for another also left her for someone else, and the man who left a serious relationship in haste one night also packed up and left me while I was running an errand. These are patterns, not random occurrences. That is his pattern of behavior.
Take a few days to learn about your next crush, ask how his relationships have started or ended, does he have a bad pattern? That doesn't mean that he can't ever turn around, or that he's a bad person, but it does mean there's an increased chance it'll happen to you. If he sneaks outbid his house at night to be with you, then watch carefully for one day it'll be you he's sneaking away from.
I also have left most relationships the same way, in my own pattern. I try an talk it out, I try and fix it myself, I wait too long and I leave when it's too late. Except that one, but that was extreme circumstances... Do you have your own pattern? Knowing ourselves can help us be more aware and notice things in others more easily.
The next person I date will have to be a good "breaker-upper" so at least if it ends, it won't destroy the trust and faith in people I have just rebuilt.
If he cheats on her with you, he will likely cheat in you.
If he leaves her for you, he can leave you for someone else.
If he takes the time to get to know you and appreciates what is great about you, he will put in an effort to make it work later too.
These are of course my own opinions and observations, I've done no scientific research or studies, but I've seen it over and over. My friends who have cheated have done so repeatedly, never just once. The man who left me for another also left her for someone else, and the man who left a serious relationship in haste one night also packed up and left me while I was running an errand. These are patterns, not random occurrences. That is his pattern of behavior.
Take a few days to learn about your next crush, ask how his relationships have started or ended, does he have a bad pattern? That doesn't mean that he can't ever turn around, or that he's a bad person, but it does mean there's an increased chance it'll happen to you. If he sneaks outbid his house at night to be with you, then watch carefully for one day it'll be you he's sneaking away from.
I also have left most relationships the same way, in my own pattern. I try an talk it out, I try and fix it myself, I wait too long and I leave when it's too late. Except that one, but that was extreme circumstances... Do you have your own pattern? Knowing ourselves can help us be more aware and notice things in others more easily.
The next person I date will have to be a good "breaker-upper" so at least if it ends, it won't destroy the trust and faith in people I have just rebuilt.