Please do not consider this as a rant, but as an honest question to which I'd love an answer. What's wrong with my stuff???
My friends have started popping out babies, again. The first round of friends was before me, so I got a ton of stuff for either super cheap or free, in what I thought was a good will effort on their part but now realize it was just a way for them to get it out of their house but not feel quilty because it went to a friend.
The second round were after my girl was born, so I thought great, I'll pass on some of this stuff and some that I got brand new, some not even used. Nope. They may be telling me how they are so far behind they don't have cell phones or TV and might lose the house soon, but they'd rather spend $500 on a stroller then take mine for $30, or to buy a $300 infant carrier rather then just use mine for free. It was a little insulting, I don't understand what is wrong with things I used. They were good enough for my baby, and if I had any hope of another they'd be good enough then too.
Next came the extras. You know, a friend of a friend's cousin who super needs stuff, free or cheap. They go around town collecting from everyone, but no one ever comes to get my stuff.
Now there's another wave of babies coming. I'm watching my friends pop bellies faster then I can change my wallet. I had some rough patches but now I'm in a place where I'm ready to part with some of my dear baby items, I wonder what will happen. Maybe this is the group who will accept my help, maybe they would rather have a house and heat to go with their second hand playpen then a new one with no home to put it in.
The absolute worst part? Those who don't want my items will often purchase off a buy and sell website, from complete strangers, and pay more then I would have asked for. Go figure.
My friends have started popping out babies, again. The first round of friends was before me, so I got a ton of stuff for either super cheap or free, in what I thought was a good will effort on their part but now realize it was just a way for them to get it out of their house but not feel quilty because it went to a friend.
The second round were after my girl was born, so I thought great, I'll pass on some of this stuff and some that I got brand new, some not even used. Nope. They may be telling me how they are so far behind they don't have cell phones or TV and might lose the house soon, but they'd rather spend $500 on a stroller then take mine for $30, or to buy a $300 infant carrier rather then just use mine for free. It was a little insulting, I don't understand what is wrong with things I used. They were good enough for my baby, and if I had any hope of another they'd be good enough then too.
Next came the extras. You know, a friend of a friend's cousin who super needs stuff, free or cheap. They go around town collecting from everyone, but no one ever comes to get my stuff.
Now there's another wave of babies coming. I'm watching my friends pop bellies faster then I can change my wallet. I had some rough patches but now I'm in a place where I'm ready to part with some of my dear baby items, I wonder what will happen. Maybe this is the group who will accept my help, maybe they would rather have a house and heat to go with their second hand playpen then a new one with no home to put it in.
The absolute worst part? Those who don't want my items will often purchase off a buy and sell website, from complete strangers, and pay more then I would have asked for. Go figure.