So, the solution to listening to the whining that seems to be getting more and more constant, is that she can do it, as long as I can't hear it. This means going into her room or the bathroom and closing the door. When she has let out her frustration and is ready to approach the problem with me as a big girl then she can come out and we will make a solution. Otherwise she can stay there until she figures it out herself. I am more then happy to work on problem solving, but geez I can't stand that noise!
This solution appears to be working so far, but as you all know sometimes it works unitl the novelty wears off then it's a problem again, but here's hoping!! The whining doesn't last as long, as without anyone to hear it there's not much point, and she's learning that the problem gets solved a lot faster if she approaches it as a big girl and we can find the solution. IF it stops working I'll update again!!