I have been noticiing a growing trend among parents, and moms in particular where everything is a huge deal, needs a label, and might be the end of their relationship with their child. Really? Sometimes kids have ADHD. Sometimes they are sensory specific, but guess what? That neither means every child is nor does it mean their entire life needs to be altered and changed and the household will need to be completly reformed from the ground up. "My child says I dont' love them" Once? Then they are angry. Did you react strongly to it and make it a huge deal? They'll do it again because it works. Tell them they know that's not true and move on with your life. IT doesn't mean they hate you, it doesn't mean you are a bad parent, it means they are having a bad day and need to express it. If they are telling other peoeple quietly and not expecting a big deal, then you worry about it. "My child won't wear jeans in the car" OR "my girl won't wear jeans" Sounds right. Do you wear jeans? Have you noticed how the zipper bulges? Do they scratch at your legs (mainly when they haven't been shaved in a while) do you find that some days they seem really comfortable and some days you want to wear yoga pants or stretch pants or even pajamas all day? Well unless you are running yourself to the doctor because you don't like jeans every day then don't run your child in for the same thing. I didn't wear jeans until junior high, and I assure you, I don't have sensory processing disorder, I have I want to be comfortable. Does your child have a few words they can't say? That's because they are little and still learning how to move their tongue around in their mouth. There ARE reasons to address certain issues, I'm not by any means saying that there's never a sign of anything more serious, but I AM saying that throwing a label on every child isn't the most prodcutive or useful way to do things. Kids now are doing the same things we did, but they keep chaning the definitions of things and adding symptoms so that we all qualify for something, does that mean we are not normal? I took the "test" for autism online, apparently I have it. Yet I don't. My child hit a few of them, it says she has it, does she? no. Not any more then I do. I was 30 when someone figured out I have OCD, I've known since high school but ok, I've done nothing to alter how I live and I'm just fine. I have to alternate my steps, I have to blink at certain times, and I have to step up the stairs with alternating feet. That all qualifies me for OCD. There's more, but those are the only ones noticiable to the naked eye. So how do you know? If something you've never seen another kid do happens a lot. If a child is scared of light instead of dark. If the temper tantrums are out of their control every single time and they can't seem to calm down. Basically things that are extreme. Watch out for the extreme things, the repeated behaviours, the things that make your tummy, not your brain, go "hmmmmm...." You'll know, it's your child, but just take a breath and calm down. Not everything your child does means they need a label.