My child is the most important thing in my life, but I won't let her be the ONLYthing in my life. Not only is that unhealthy for me but it's a lot of pressure for a little person
It's good to eat well and exercise, but I won't let her weight/shape to be the main concern. I worry about gaining a little too much weight, and I don't want her to be an unhealthy weight, but my expectations for myself are different for her. This is for a few reasons; my nutritional requirements are different then hers, I'm not growing not will I have a growth spurt to even out my extra tummy while I know that in a week she will, and our body shapes are and will be different, so I need to work areas she does not, plus we have different motabolisim rates. I will encourage her to focus on feeling healthy and maintaining that, while I do the same
I may date occasionally, and sometimes she will know but sometimes she won't. I'm not going to make the mistake of lettin her meet everyone I date or even know every time I go out one a date, but I won't hide it from her either. I want her to grow up with a healthy attitude towards dating and know that it's not the end all be all of life but can help you meet that person you belong with
I want her to do well in school and activities, but I won't try to make her love all the things I do. I liked English and hated PE, but if she likes PE and Chemistry or dance instead of an instrument, then I'll be excited about it with her and encourage her to reach the goals she sets for herself, not ones I've made for her
People are emotional and I plan to teach her that, and that it's ok and normal to have a range of emotions and that there are healthy ways to deal with them. I won't make her think its wrong to cry or that mommies don't get sad, I won't make her ashamed of her feelings
I'm sure that I will make a ton of mistakes though. Too much value on possessions, expecting certain things out of a relationship, choosing men based on the wrong criteria, buying a car because its a pretty colour, and my favorite and the one I'm so far most guilty of; forgetting the backpack/lunch at home and running to the tire for lunch food because I'm already 45 mins from home.
I know you will make your own mistakes, but are there some you are determined not to make?