Don't get me wrong, if I ask for advice it's because I want an opinion. I may ask my single friends if I let my child run my life, that's because I want to know how they feel. I don't, however, give a rat about how you think I should feed, dress, or teach my children.
Unless you have a background in education or child development. Then I am hoping you will share your wisdom and save me some trouble.
Back on topic. For those single and childless people in my life, who have never so much as changed a diaper, save out friendship by saving your opinions. Maybe your parents potty trained you by making you sleep in the tub, but I use Pull Ups and won't rush it. Days were easy, so nights aren't a huge concern. Here's some basic things to keep quiet about, or at least read about first:
- Bike helmets are law. Don't tell me I'm babying my child by enforcing that LAW and PROTECTING my child, that's my first job in the world.
- Training wheels are NOT raising an emotionally stunted child, I'm not creating an overwhelming dependency on me, I'm helping her learn at her own speed and, again, keeping her safe. If you weren't offered any by your parents feel free to cry to them about it or seek counseling, that's your issue and not mine.
- A young child who takes off wet clothes or doesn't get dressed first thing in the morning is not automatically going to be a stripper. Children notoriously like running around in various states of undress because its freeing and they can move easier.
- Car Seats, booster seats, and seat belts save lives every day, and again, it's LAW. You tell a mom about ignoring SAFETY and LAW and expect to be told off. That's life, if you start it make sure you are ready for her to finish it (in other words, put up or shut up).
- If you do it for your own safety, expect a parent to do it for their child's safety. Cars, planes, buses, bikes, crowds, heat, sun, winter roads, etc are all potentially dangerous and you take safety precautions for yourself, you then can't judge me for taking the same precautions with my kid.
- Don't tell me pizza is unhealthy for her, while you are downing your own slice with a slurpee, followed by a vodka chaser at the bar. I know it's not good for anyone, but if you teach kids never to have stuff they can form unhealthy relationships with food, etc, and go overboard later. I have reasons for what we eat, and just because you see it one day doesn't mean it happens every day. You don't know my life so leave it alone.
What do your non-parent friends nag you about that bother you? She'd them and pass them around!
I apologize if I offended you, that was not my intention. I've been offended by my "friends" and their judgements of me for years, and I compiled this list partly in jest and partly to share, in hopes I can keep other friends from damaging their friendships as mine have been damaged.