I consider my true long term friends to be those who I won't see for weeks or even months and things seem just the same when I see them as they always were. These are the people I wouold miss the most if they were to never again to visit me, or share a coffee. Everyone has a group of "fairweather friends" who only want to be around when things are gong well and who disappear as soon as things get difficult. But do you have one true best friend?
In school we all had that one best friend who knew everything. You told them all your stories, feelings, and shared with them all your questions. You learned and grew together. Now, as a mom, I find that I crave that kind of friendship. Someone who knows what's going on in my life when I call them and I don't need to explain every feeling, they just know. Looking around, I don't feel that I have that. I have a few close friends who I speak too, and seak advice from, or just call when I need a good laugh. None of these friends know everything about me. No one I speak to regularily knows why I run, they don't remember my first cup of coffee, they don't know how things make me feel until I telll them, and they surely don't know everything that goes on in my life. Now things are more complicated then in any other time of life, and we are not all taking the time to clutivate those kinds of friendships.
How many people on your Facebook friends list have you met? How many do you see? Are we now spending so much time trying to know everyone, be liked by everyone, and please everyone, that we have forgotten that quality is almost always better then quantity? I would like to challenge you to focus on your friends this week. Inspect your relationships and see which need cultivating, which people do you rely on the most, and who do you want to be the closest too? You can't create a BFF, but if you look hard enough you might already have one!
Now, let's take a moment to look at how this will affect our children. Are we teaching our chilren how to form and cultivate those freindships that will see them through the tough times they have ahead? Peer pressure is coming, tests will arise, and we won't always be within arms reach, I for one want my daughter to have a best friend to support her decisions and cross those roads with her.