Is this what we are teaching our children? That if someone is in line ahead of you but you don't want to wait it is acceptable to be rude, to put your arm around them and try to get the cashiers attention? I didn't know it was ok to jump in the front of the line because you want too. I was raised to wait my turn, and keep my hands to myself. The same goes in a parking lot. I didn't know that we have come so far in our develpment that it's normal to look at someone waiting for a parking spot, glare at them, and speed up to get in front of them as the last car is pulling out. When I grew up if someone was patiently waiting for something when you got there you simply waited your turn or got something else.
I was watching two children play the other day. One was loud but behaving well otherwise, the other was quiet but wasn't being as nice to the other children. However, the quieter child was using good manners verbally. It's curious to see which child was rewarded for their behaviour, and which got in trouble. According to my observations as long as you say "please" before taking a toy from someone else it's ok, even if they didn't wat to share. It crosses my mind that those parents would have a different reaction if a car jacker politely asked them to give them the keys to their car and drove away.
I've done things too. I've made mistakes and looked at it later to realize my actions just taught my child something I think is wrong. "Is it right for mommy to yell at other drivers?" no. "even when they almost cause an oopsie?" no. She knows it's wrong, and that I shouldn't do it, but I do anyway, so if I had to guess I would think she'll do it too when she's older. That's not what I want to teach her. I try to remind myself every driver makes mistakes, but sometimes it's too late...
As parents are we teaching our children to create a world that makes us unhappy? If we teach them to be rude and inconsiderate now, what will happen later? When we are old these are the people who will decide what happens to us, and without polite consideration and empathy for others, we will all end up where is easiest for them... I would much rather be cared for properly then shoved into a corner and ignored until they need me for something. I'm making it my goal to creat a caring, considerate, and polite person, and I hope that she will do the same. Perhaps if most of us do, then we can all be happy and not worry that our child will be hurt or overlooked.
Please don't think I am insulting all parents, or saying everyone is rude. I've been around some very helpful and polite people lately, but it seems those experiences get swept away with all the other stuff. I am helping this by smiling at everyone I pass today, hoping that that one smile will spread to many people!